On some level, we all want to like our co-workers. Eight hours a day (or more) sitting next to someone is certain to go a lot more smoothly if you enjoy the company. But what happens when the relationship among staff has more animosity than amicability? And worse yet, what happens when it’s directed at you? Hill Navigator discusses.
Q. I landed a great job with a great boss on the Hill but I just don't seem to fit in with the other staff. They often go to receptions and don't invite me and they don't include me when they go out for happy hour. They have been working together long before I started and know each other well but don’t seem to like me. How do I get them to include me?
Ah, the dreaded, “my co-workers don’t like me.” Just when you think you’ve outgrown the last of the popularity contests, you’ve landed in the middle of a competitive, close-knit bunch and you’re the odd one out.
Before launching into advice, let’s take a moment for hurt feelings, shall we? At the heart of being disliked is the painful, visceral uneasiness that comes with it. Even if you’re confident in your abilities, have dear friends, strong relationships and plenty of activities outside of work, it won’t change the ugly feelings that come with stepping inside of an office that isn’t exactly pleased to see you .