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Say Goodbye to That Co-Worker You Never Liked

They’re leaving. It’s happening. That person you never liked sitting next to is finding a new office. Or maybe they’re being frog-marched out the door, or promoted to a plum administration post, complete with a hard pin. Whatever the scenario, someone you don’t like at work is leaving, and you’re ready to throw a stapler-confetti party at your desk. So why, then, should you take the time to say goodbye and wish them well? Hill Navigator will give you three reasons. (And if you can get to the end of the reasons still not convinced, or feel this person is such an evil-doer they are not worth the meager effort, then you get a pass, just this once.) First, it costs you nothing to wish them well. Yes, it may require some pride-swallowing, and if you can’t stand to do it in person, then dash off a quick email: “Hey, I heard you are leaving for an amazing opportunity!" or the sympathetic, "I was sorry to see you leave; I hope you find something that is a good fit." Regardless, end it with, "I wish you the best and hope our paths cross again.” Feeling up for a challenge? Walk by this person's desk and say the words face to face. If things are particularly sour, add a line acknowledging you’ve had your “ups and downs,” but that should be the extent of the gloating. Second, you never ever know when you will cross paths again. Fortunes change. Members of Congress lose. Or they get promoted to leadership spots. Or run for president. Yes, there is a chance you and your colleague might never see each other again, but if you’re both staying in politics, odds are you’re likely to wind up in the same vicinity in the near future. A friendly "goodbye" now will leave things on better terms for when you inevitably run into one another, either at a cocktail reception or back in a workplace setting. Third, it's good to be the bigger person. Part of being an adult is disliking people but being civil about it, especially when these people are co-workers. If you want to be the superstar staffer that you’re cut out to be, be nice to those around you, even when you’re feeling otherwise. Also, you’re setting a good example in the office. Civility wins. All the time. Related: When the Boss Quits: Staffer Survival Guide Job Switching: Better to Jump Around or Sit Still? Before You Go, a Short To-Do List for Hill Staffers See photos, follies, HOH Hits and Misses and more at Roll Call's new video site. Get breaking news alerts and more from Roll Call in your inbox or on your iPhone.